"Tougher Than It Is"
I've had the lyrics of Cake's Pressure Chief song "Tougher Than It is" rolling around in my head all day. The full refrain is: "some people like to make life tougher than it is." That is so true. There are some folks who enter my life, and I know, before the conversation gets going, that complication is coming. These are the ones, who just before ending a conversation say: "You know, I was thinking......." While I know that life is tough and painful for many. I know that there are complicated situations out there; life support, the environment, how to care for the poor poor. Not everything has to be complicated and negative.
But for some folks, a day is not really good unless they can complicate someone's life with doubt, skepticism, cynicism, or sarcasm.
I guess I react so strongly to these people is because I once was one (and still fight cynical snake). I had such a sharp tounge, especially in seminary, that I lost friends because of the harsh things I would say in the guise of pursuing truth. The truth was, I liked to chase people with words and logic and leave them fumbling and confused. I had to win. And for me to win, you had to lose. Then Jesus got hold of me through Christian classics, especially Thomas a'Kempis. These folks gently brought me into "the woodshed" and taught me that my purpose was to reflect Christ, not disarm all opponents.
So now, a swim in the ocean looking at the mountains, makes my day. A quiet meal with Martha and a glass of wine is a feast. A cup of coffee with one candle lit is a sanctuary. The other night I heard my favorite live group "Vajra" play at a downtown club. I was with Martha and a bunch of friends celebrating the birthday of a church member/friend. During the very loud set, the bass guitarist took off on a riff that welled my eyes with tears. His fingers flew on the neck of the guitar and he was inside the music. Another guitarist looked over at me and rolled his eyes in wonder.
I wish for you, wherever you are, that you refuse to "let some people make life tougher than it is" and instead...live.